Single Mom: The Exceptional Woman
August 29, 2008 at 12:40 am 3 comments
Hello Single Moms,
You are our heros of hope and inspiration. This blog was created to open conversation and inspire others to live more rewarding lives. If you are a single mom, please let us hear from you! We have a couple of questions below. Give us your words of wisdom!
- How do you balance your family life without a father/husband in the home?
- What lessons have you learned as a single mother?
- What inspiring words can you offer to other single moms who are struggling to make from day-to-day?
Don’t hold back! You are an example of extraordinary strength, hope, courage, and faith. We sincerely welcome your comments and words of wisdom.
Sherry
Entry filed under: HOT TOPICS. Tags: Children and Fathers, Fatherless Homes, Moms, Single Moms, Women and Children, Women and Courage, Women and Hope, Women and Strength.
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Barlaine | September 5, 2008 at 7:46 pm
Usually I am asked almost daily, “How do you manage your life being a single mom of four?” How do you do balance your life, working, writing, and trying to school and maintain your kids different lives as well? My answer, Prayer, and my kids. I live for my kids because I am all they have, I am their only provider. They are innocent and did not asked to be here. I feel that it is my sole duty to be their provider in “everything”.
I have learned a lot of lessons being a single mom. Number one lesson, don’t have kids with someone who displays no interest in you or your well being, wheather it be spiritually, financially, emotionally or physically. Because that’s how I got screwed. I thought I was doing the All American thing, get married, have children and raise them “together”. But if only one of you have that dream then others can’t see that dream or they don’t want to see that dream.
That was the hardest lesson learned with being a single mother,and sometimes I feel bad for my kids because I can’t be a replacement for the father role my boys need, but I do all I can as a mother to direct them to success.
The inspiring words that I can offer to single moms, who struggles from day to day, to make their kids lives as well as their own lives, meaniful and successful, are, be encouraged and just know that you are not alone. The precentage rate for single family homes are on the rise. It’s hard out there by yourself with your kids, I know. How I keep going and what makes me push harder is, when I look into my kids face and they are depending on me for everything, it makes me push harder and harder to be successful. I have had my freak out days when I felt alone and cried my eyes out and wanted to just give up, and just wanted somebody to say, “It’s going to be alright, you’re a great mom” or ” You’re doing a great job”, keep pushing your kids will reap the benefits of all of your hard work”. And to make my struggle even harder is, I have felonies. So my struggles are doubled. I just made up in my mind one day, when God gave me a vision, I Will Be Successful. I Will Live Comfortably in my life, and I can be anything I want to be. I believe that anything a person wants in this life, they can have it. The game did not end when you became a single mother, it had just begun… Push harder and harder every day to be successful in Everything!
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Ronay Delley | September 5, 2008 at 11:06 pm
As with anything, it is as hard or as easy as you make it. When I was married, I was pouring all that I had into my family making my life onesided; since becoming a single mom of 4 I’ve been forced to learn to balance. I’ve learned that in order for me to be most effective, I’ve got to take time to enjoy my life and what makes me happy. I have gone from mothering my children, holding their hands and taking care of all their needs to teaching them how to be their own independent people and how to LIVE their own lives. At some point they will become adults and leave my home and I don’t want to be learning how to live when the rest of the world is going forward. Too often mothers stop living when their children are born. Don’t misunderstand me, life definitely changes however having children does not mean that there is no more you. My words to other moms are: Remember how to LIVE! Remember how to be YOU! Remember those things that make YOU feel great about YOURSELF! Live like there’s no tomorrow…make today count!
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Stephanie Clark | September 10, 2008 at 1:59 pm
Good Day Ladies,
As a seasoned single mom for over 15 years, I can relate to the questions and comments posed about balance and the challenges parenting on our own. Actually, I address all of your questions in my book entitled, “Life As A Single Mom: It Isn’t Easy, Or Is It?” published in October 2007. Also, through my non-profit organization My Daughter’s Keeper, Inc., we have launched a national empowerment movement for single moms called “Project Single Moms.” I invite you to visit our website at http://www.projectsinglemoms.com to order the book, join the national movement and start today connecting with single moms from across the country. Be encouraged and keep pressing forward my fellow phenomenal single moms.
God Bless
Stephanie
Email me at sclark@projectsinglemoms.com